Sorry to break it to you, but love is never meant to be forever. That escalated too quickly? So, let’s slow down and take it step by step….
Every time we learn something, our brain forms new neurons and connections. This process repeats daily until we die. Each day, we wake up as a newer version of ourselves. When you say you love someone, you're loving their present self, not necessarily who they were before, nor who they'll become. That 'present self' will go through enough changes to eventually become something entirely different, perhaps even unrecognizable to you. This is similar to the Sorites Paradox: if you keep removing one grain from a heap of sand, at some point, it will no longer be considered a 'heap.' You won't notice the gradual changes until, one day, that person becomes a stranger.
Some might argue that we don’t love the body, intellect, or any other quality; we love the soul, and the soul remains unchanged throughout life... Well, the truth is, a soul does not exist, and neither do soulmates. We humans have romanticized and exaggerated everything—and that’s the beauty of being human.
But still, the question remains unanswered: why do we keep clinging to that one person our entire life? What is that strange connection we feel? Well, it’s not them—it’s actually you. It takes just love to fall in love, but it takes more than love to stay in love. Now, what does that really mean? We’ll have to dig a little deeper. Things are about to get boring now.
Imagine yourself as a tree standing in the middle of a pond, surrounded by water that represents your realm of love. You love everything within this realm, or better put, everything you love is inside this realm. When you fall in love with someone, you plant their seed within it. As a true lover, you nourish them to help them grow. But the catch is, they might grow beyond the boundaries of your realm, beyond the point where you can love them fully. You can’t restrict their branches or roots from growing. And after a certain period, you'll realize that the tree has grown far beyond your loving space. Now, you can't ignore that tree because it’s already been planted in your realm, and you can’t plant another tree due to the lack of space. You have already lost your lover; all you have left is the idea of them. You can either end all of this by cutting down the tree (separation), or you can keep pretending to love them, continuing to nourish something that no longer grows the way it once did. But can you ever truly let go of something that’s become a part of you?
Most stories, unfortunately, will meet the same fate. In the real world, by that time, 'love' becomes entangled in worldly responsibilities such as marriage, children, and family. So now, do you understand what it really takes to stay in love—and why it’s more than just love? Was it all really worth it? Well, it’s up to you to decide whether to emphasize the journey, the destination, or the company.
The Curse Of Love